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Healing After a Divorce/Separation | Family Mediation in Minnesota

April 29, 2016

Minnesota Divorce MNIf you break a bone, you expect the pain to last for a period of time.  It is unlikely that you expect the pain to last eternally.  But when you experience the breaking of a relationship, for a time at least it feels as though you will never feel better.  Why?  It seems likely that it could be due to the fact that we do not romanticize our  bones as we do our relationships.  But both bones and relationships may break because we take them for granted and neglect them.  Johnson Mediation of Chanhassen, Minnesota, provides comprehensive family mediation services and can help you make sense of the pain you are feeling following a divorce or separation.

If the pain and difficulty of a divorce or separation is still a presence in your life, Johnson Mediation can provide reassurance that what you are feeling and experiencing is normal.  But even if what you are experiencing is more severe than what is considered normal, Johnson Mediation will work with you to find a better balance for you.  Normal is merely an average of extremes, after all, and Johnson Mediation has a healthy respect for, and vast expertise with, the complex and often overwhelming emotional and psychological responses to relationships that end.  Through family mediation in Minnesota, we’ll work hard to restore some form of normalcy to your life.

Navigating Divorce With An Eye Forward With Family Mediation in Minnesota

So if you are going through a tough time as a result of the break-up of a relationship, it can be helpful to remember that, just like a broken bone, the pain of a broken relationship will also lessen over time.  But it is also important to understand how your response to the end of a relationship may be prolonging the healing process.  As a result, Johnson Mediation recommends a variety of family mediation strategies that can optimize your post-relationship response.  Some examples include the following:

  1. Ask for help – Seek help from loved-ones and/or an impartial professional in order to help you understand your specific role in the relationship. It is rare that relationships end solely because of one member, though many of us are inclined to place 100% of the blame on ourselves.
  2. Avoid alcohol and drugs – Another temptation to resist is a reliance on substances to dull or alter the pain of the break-up. Family mediators will tell you alcohol and other drugs almost always do more harm than good.
  3. Look at yourself – Ask yourself questions about the patterns of your life and how they might have contributed to the roles you’ve played in relationships up until this point in your life. Those questions should be introspective and without a presumed answer of self-blame.  Be as objective and honest as you can be.
  4. Apply knowledge in healthy ways – When you begin to formulate answers to those questions, apply your new knowledge in healthy ways.

These are starting points.  Johnson Mediation can help you formulate a plan that works for you, and encourage healing through our comprehensive family mediation services.  Contact our team at (952) 401-7599 to learn more.

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