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The Dos and Don’ts of Divorce Mediation

August 20, 2015

Divorce Mediation Services MinnesotaCompromise is the foundation of all marriages, and all amicable divorces as well. Yes, most divorces don’t result in judges’ courtroom decisions these days, as sometimes portrayed in dramatic television shows and movies. Most divorces take place in attorneys’ offices, whether through arbitration or mediation. And how you handle yourself during these sessions can have a big impact on the outcome of your divorce. Johnson Mediation is here for you to help find an acceptable agreement for both parties during the mediation process. If you want an experienced and compassionate divorce mediator in Minnesota, look no further than Johnson Mediation.

Negotiate Your Own Divorce Settlement

These days, most judges won’t even hear a divorce dispute unless it has gone through the mediation process. Now, this might sound like arbitration to some people, and you may be asking “what’s the difference?” There are many similarities between arbitration and mediation, including that they both stay out of the courtroom and they both have experienced guides to help the process along. The main difference is that in arbitration, the arbitrator can make decisions and the results are often binding. In mediation, the mediator is simply a guide, and the disputing parties are freed to effectively negotiate their own settlement. And this is where compromise becomes necessary. A person’s disposition can have a big impact on the mediation process, and there are some rules that should be followed when approaching it.

Things You Should Do:

  • Concentrate on topics where you both agree. Establishing a culture of cooperation and respect makes it easier to tackle the disputed issues later on.
  • Although you may not get it in return, always treat/speak to the opposing party with a civil approach.
  • Early on in the process, establish that you want the process to succeed, thereby avoiding more costly litigation.
  • Make sure that each dispute is negotiated on its own terms, and that you both understand the issue being discussed.
  • Try to think of the issue from the other party’s view. This allows for a more thoughtful and understanding mediation process.
  • Show that you are willing to compromise, such as giving up things in return for others, and conceding on areas of contention.

Things You Should Never Do:

  • Stoop to name-calling and/or insults. This in no way moves the process forward.
  • Say things meant to infuriate the other party.
  • Interrupt the other party. Ask when you may fill in with your own comments.
  • Ignore the opposing party’s apprehension regarding specific issues.
  • Declare ultimatums.
  • Cast blame or bring up past disputes.
  • Be afraid to compromise.

Minnesota Divorce Mediation

Divorce is a painful and expensive process. And effective mediation is the least painful and expensive method available. The experienced mediators at Johnson Mediation want to help you move through this process as easily as possible. We know compromise is a lot to ask, and might be the last thing you want to do with the opposing party at the moment. But think of it this way: the sooner you get through the process, the sooner you can move on with your life. So contact our Minnesota divorce mediators today at 952-401-7599.

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