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Sharing Parenting Time – Visitation Schedules after Divorce

January 24, 2010

Parenting Time:  How much time will your children spend with you compared to your spouse after your divorce?

Research has shown the biggest indicator of how well children of couples that divorce adjust is the level of conflict between the parents.  It isn’t the fact their parents got divorced  or that they now have two homes, it is how much conflict they see or feel between their parents.  The more conflict present the more issues the kids will have both in the short term and long term.

One of the biggest gifts you can give your children is to build a parenting plan that works with their schedule as well as yours.  As kids get older their parents become less important as they seek peer approval and begin to separate from their parents.  Ask yourself if the parenting plan you are building supports your kids and their development while modeling how their parents can put them first and minimize the real or perceived conflict between them.

If you don’t have a Parenting Plan developed, invest the time with a Mediator to help build a Parenting Plan that works for each parent and most importantly your kids.  The Parenting Plan acts a a road map guiding you through decisions around:

  • What schools will the kids attend
  • Holiday schedule
  • Vacations
  • Religious Training
  • Communication between Parents

By having a robust Parenting Plan for couples who have divorced, it will help minimize the conflict and keep the focus on the kids.

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